Archive for December, 2010

Exporting to Africa

Tuesday, December 21st, 2010

EXPORTING: Why consider the African marketplace

Africa is difficult! That is what many American business people think about doing business in Africa. Typical reservations are, “Those countries are always in the middle of a coup d’etat”. “You can never get your money out of the country in hard currency”. “They may nationalize my investment”. “There is nothing in Africa but natural resources controlled by multinational companies”. “Africans can not be trusted”. “Africans are not advanced enough to handle technology”. “Africans can not afford our products and services”. “Africans are in the dark ages”.

These opinion are mainly shared by people who have never done business in Africa and who are very biased, uninformed and are unaware of the vast changes taking place in Africa, long before the changes in Europe.

In many respects, its easier and more profitable to do business in the changing Africa of the 90′s than the turbulent regimes of the former eastern bloc or in the highly competitive newly formed EEC.

Africa should not be treated as a homogenous entity. To do so would obscure or confuse the great diversity of the continent. Treating Africa as a single economy or ignore the range and great variance individual economies can lead to inappropriate and incorrect conclusions. The primary difficulties are that it makes little sense to consider these individual countries collectively as single markets.

Each country has its own sets of institutions, governments and regulations for both domestic and foreign policies that affect business in that particular country. In addition, each government poses different restrictions on private activities.

Thus basing or comparing one country to another could lead to wrong conclusion and generalization because of the different restrictions and regulations. Thus each country should be treated separately and each market should be looked into as a separate entity with different sets of marketing strategies.

These strategies even vary within a country itself.
Understanding each market is the key to doing business in the Africa. Here are some of the reasons why all company should consider exporting to the African market place.

  • EXPLORE NEW MARKETS.
  • SELLER’S MARKET
  • EXPAND SALES VOLUME
  • INCREASE PROFIT POTENTIALS
  • EXTEND PRODUCT LIFE CYCLE
  • SHRINKING DOMESTIC MARKETS
  • FASTER MINIMUM EFFICENCY LEVEL
  • GROWTH POTENTIAL
  • TIMING IS RIGHT

Things are rapidly changing in Africa, the image of Africa as being a place of gloom and doom is misleading. It masks everything important that is going on in Africa.

EXPLORE NEW MARKETS
According to several studies, nearly 90 percent of all small to mid-size companies do not export their product and services. Similarly, for most mid-size companies, exporting is still treated as a waiting game, a game of chance and a sideline, if it’s done at all. However, for both groups, the cost of not exporting is very HIGH.

Many Americans companies have both the potential for growth and the willingness to grow, but yet they still fail to do so, when its comes to the international markets, particularly the African market place. The most obvious reasons companies do not seek to develop new markets under these circumstances is simply the failure to recognize that new markets exist outside America, particularly in Africa. This can be due to either lack of opportunity to explore the African market place or lack of effort to find out what opportunities exist in Africa.

Despite the opportunities in exporting to Africa, many companies simply suffer from the fear and excessive caution. Many American companies refrain from the African market place because of excessive and unrealistic fears and their views of Africa. Any business growth entails some form of risks, adjustments and also new problems. However, the benefits of exporting to Africa far out weigh the cost. Excessive unrealistic fears obstruct much potential development that could be beneficial to both the home markets and the new African markets.

The success of yesterday is not a guarantee for the survival of today or the existence of tomorrow. New ways should constantly be formulated and implemented to meet the needs and the demands of tomorrow. It also should be noted that statistical data of yesterday are only valid for yesterday. Today’s events are entirely different; hence new strategies should always be formulated and implemented.

In the new world order, most companies are seeking and searching the global market place for new markets. The world market place is fast becoming a stateless and boundaryless markets, in other words it is now a “global village”, and any one country can no longer survive from her domestic market alone. Hence producers are concerned about new and greener pasture to sell their products and services.

Africa is roughly 660+ million people with 53 countries. 90-95 percent of her products and services are imported from the west; American presence in Africa roughly amounts to about five percent. Americans cannot afford to be left out from the African market place. American companies should not hesitate to explore these markets, the last great frontier of the 20th century. The failure of yesterday should not be the judging factors for today, instead constructive and aggressive marketing campaign should be encouraged, just as they did with the EEC and the newly formed USSR markets.

In developing and formulating these strategies for the African markets, the following should be considered:

"Business Consultant"

  • International culture of business
  • Common culture of business
  • Relationship based marketing
  • Ideas are the coins of the kingdom
  • Courage and guts
  • Just do it, it works

Consultants with African market know-how contact with local cultural background and familiarities with the American marketing approach should be used to explore these new market place.

Another significant approach is the utilization of the abundant human resources in your backyard. Talented, American-educated trained Africans should be used and incorporated in your business strategies. They would lead you and your company to the market place. “Who can best sell to the Africans, than the Africans?” This is one of the most effective approaches to the African market place. Yet American companies constantly avoid these abundant human assets found and grown in American.

SELLER’S MARKET
Any country that produces more than it consumes, is considered a buyers market, because the consumer has the option to buy exactly what they want from the market at any time especially when there is a high degree of competition involved.

On the other hand, if a country produces less than it consumes, then this type of market is considered seller’s market because the seller controls the market since there very few local producers and the demands are very high.

Now consider the African marketplace, where most consumers buy whatever is obtainable and available in the market place. In Africa, the seller controls the market, hence the term “Africa is a SELLERS MARKET”.

In Africa, between 90-95 percent of the products and services are imported from the west, American companies need not be a house-hold name to win African consumer’s trust once an appealing products, services and constructive business ethics are fine-tuned to meet the test of the international market place and the demands of the African market place.

The only challenge for American companies is to spend time to study the consumer behavior of each market and an aggressive marketing campaign put in place for each market. Therefore in Africa, your consumers are practically guaranteed, nowhere else in the world is there a market more readily available for Americans to capitalize on than the African market place.

EXPAND SALES VOLUME & INCREASE PROFIT POTENTIAL
I will start with a story about two sales men who went to a developing country, the sales men saw the natives bare footed, one of the sales man wired back home saying “There is no possibilities of sales, natives do not wear shoes”. On the other hand, the other sales man wired back home, “Hurry, quickly and send stocks, natives need shoes badly”.

The lesson of this story is that Americans have not learned to recognize market opportunities and are blinded by their comparison of the rest of the world to their standards and styles at home. If only Americans can realize the size of the African market and the golden opportunity of expanding their market-reach to a population of about 660 million people and it is estimated that by the year 2025, the population would reach about 1.6 billion people. This is a market not to be reckoned with, it makes all business sense to do business with Africa.

The share size of the market should be an incentive for any company wanting to expand their sales volume and increase their profit potential. Americans should stop playing the waiting game when it comes to expanding their market base. The African market place offers unprecedented market opportunities and profitability for American companies.

No matter the political, economic and social situations in most of African countries, African business people will still continue to do business with the rest of the world. These political, economic and social situations are ancient excuses used by Americans to omit the potentials of the African market place.

Before the advent of the NAFTA, Americans were very hesitant and worried about the buying power and potentials of the Mexicans, but from all the reports on NAFTA, Americans are benefiting more from NAFTA, Americans are selling at the rate of $1billion per week to Mexico despite the lower buying potentials, yet Africa is about six time the population of Mexico. Note that for every billion-dollar export, 20,000 jobs are created in America; now translate that to the African market possibilities.

In fact, on a business note, it will be a crime not to export and do business with Africa. Americans should take advantage of their Americaness, when it comes to the African market place.

EXTEND PRODUCT LIFE CYCLE
It cannot be mistaken that America is the most advanced country in the world. In America, the time runs, in Africa and the rest of the world, the time walks. Things that are obsolete in America are more than likely new in other parts of the world, particularly in Africa.

Due to the slow pace of the African continent, most of the products and services that are out of fashion or out of style in America are new in Africa. The life expectancy of products and services in America are very short, therefore the short life expectancy of these product and services can be prolonged when new markets are developed.

Once again, these opportunities will only open up for Americans when the rights marketing strategies are put in used. As creative as Americans are, they would be very successful in introducing their American ingenuity to these countries.

My advice to interested American companies is to visit these countries with an American trained Africans to study the African markets and their buying behavior. There is no other market in the world where the consumers are readily available. The key ingredient to growth is increased sales; the African market place will make that possible and faster.

SHRINKING DOMESTIC MARKET
Unprecedented challenges confront many American companies in today’s globalization of markets, resource and competitive environments particularly in the domestic markets–the home American market place.

The American domestic markets are bombarded with goods and services from everywhere and anywhere, thereby forcing the home based companies out of business because they cannot even compete   at home.

American businesses still think of the time when Americans had a continental economy and a growing pie. Americans must learn to drastically re-adjust her thinking to the new realities of competitive international economy when her economic pie is not growing at historic rates. It is not growing fast enough to satisfy all the demands placed against it, especially the challenges of international competitions, however, it is time for American businesses to start actively seeking the international market place.

American companies should start readjusting to the “once a buyer to now a seller”, these changes have altered the Americans position of advantage in this modern realities of globalization. However, there is still hope, African market place offers that hope.

FASTER MINIMUM EFFICIENCY LEVEL
Efficiency level is defined by the maximizing production of labor and materials. The break even point is that point where cost equals sales and from that point on, company starts making profit, however, the demand and the size of the market affects this level.

Thus the bigger the market and the higher the demand for the products and services, the faster a company reaches this point. Hence the efficiency level could be achieved faster than anticipated if the demand for the products and services are more than previously calculated.

What this means is that due to the Africans affinities for Americans products and services and the share size of the African markets, most American company’s efficiency level would be achieved faster and growth will follow. Hence the faster the company attains their efficiency level, the faster the company starts making profits. The goal of all companies is to start making profit as fast as possible.

The African market offers most American companies the opportunity to reach this level because between 90 to 95 percent of most of the products and services are imported from the west. Why can’t Americans be part of this percentage? American companies should consider the viability of the African market place and should not be left out as in the steel, automobile and even in the consumer goods industries.

TIMING IS RIGHT
The timing is right for Americans to take advantage of the changes in the life styles and the shifting interests of the Africans that have created markets for anyone with appealing and quality products and services. Companies who take their profit margin seriously should no longer play the waiting game when it comes to exporting to Africa.

Things are constantly changing in Africa the negative imagery of Africa is blinding Americans form potential profits. Long before the wave of democratization swept through Eastern Europe, Africans were quietly re-assessing their colonial past. As Africans turn away from their colonial heritage, the opportunity for Americans to re-align themselves socially and economically with Africans open.

The spirit of the new world order is another major reason and in the new world order, African socioeconomic ties should take priority over political differences or ideologies. Pragmatism, not neocolonialism, is what is needed in a new relationship with Africa.
The floodgate of opportunities is now opened to well meaning business people around the world as African countries began the process of liberalizing their economies and inviting foreign investment in earnest.

In conclusion, American companies can change the winter of their businesses, however Americans cannot change Africans, but must learn to adopt a tailored trade approach do business with Africans.

Opportunity follows difficulties and Americans must take advantage of the opportunity. Opportunity is not guarantee, opportunity is a chance.

Africa is the window of opportunity for Americans. Life is too brief, not to take advantage of the opportunity at hand.

Welcome to Africa, our home, your opportunity

0
Posted in Business Matters |

How to re-think what is Race

Tuesday, December 21st, 2010

How to re-think what is Race

  • Do you know the color of race?
  • Why label race as color?
  • Do you have a pain called race?
  • Can anyone define joy called race?
  • Any form of happiness called race?
  • Why do we lay so much emphasis on the word race?

These are the questions I want to discuss here. How to foolishly define what is not real that we consider real. We have made what is not acceptable to be the norm of the society, by defying Nature. As I have preached, nature will always win, sooner or later. It is just a matter of time.

I once asked a group in Seattle Washington in 1996, for any one in the group to define an Indian joy or an American pain?

I was not surprised that no one in the audience could define any such thing. The next question was? Is there any such thing anywhere in the world? Just like when the early settlers in America had a deal with the Native Americans about buying and selling land from them, the Indians never had a thinking concept of “Selling or Buying Land” The Indian concept was “The land, water and the air belongs to all” It is not for sale, it should not be sold. Likewise the concept of race was the western creation that was never natural.

Hence, pain is pain; happiness is happiness anywhere in the world. A woman giving birth to a child anywhere in the world experiences the same pain and joy after giving birth of the child, not matter the nationality. Likewise, a parent that buries their child will tell you the same pain and bitter pill they had to swallow. A joyful woman or man experiences the same hormone in their body like any other person anywhere in the world. Why the race nonsense? All I am asking is for you to open the window to your mind and look beyond.

Why do we relate everything to black and white? Why the destructive power of racism? Some one once said “Just because you know me by color does mean you know me as a person”, what a powerful message. Yes, you see my-so-called color, but you don’t know me. How can you judge me base on your false assumptions? Why subject me to your sick mind? Why relegate me to your feeble mindset? Why don’t you open the window to your mind?

I read a book 30+yrs ago, and the Chinese author said quote “The world will not have peace until we all have the same one color —- Tan. I never thought about it then, however, my living outside Africa have redefined my thinking about the word race and peace. Yes, he was right back then when I read the book and he is right today as well, we will not have peace until we all have the so-called same color “tan” What makes it so interesting is that the color is not even white or black, far from it. What will happen then? Are we going to redefine “Tan” and coin or create another word for of Race?

I need your take on this so-called word called Race and Peace.

"Your Diversity Expert"

Life is a constant change. The world is changing, change your thinking. The road to success is always under construction and success is preparation on purpose.

I am your expert on race, people and relations. I have been on this quest for over the past 25 years and I continue to improve daily. Author: Delson Adeoye

So you want to know more about race, people and culture, if so I strongly recommend you check out this book: Africans In America, Hear our Stories and learn more.

0
Posted in Race Talk |

How to keep Life and Love in Your Relationship

Monday, December 20th, 2010

Introduction

This booklet is dedicated to Loving Relationships and the role of a woman can play in making hers Last.

All of us place a high value on a Loving relationship. We sometimes have laden it with a heavy burden. A relationship is expected to endlessly fulfill the fantasies of two freethinking, multifaceted individuals.

At the beginning, when curiosity and infatuation dominate the union, everything seems possible. But as time, repetition and or disagreement cast their lot on our relationships, they begin to shut them down. Luckily, Loving relationship-all of which have limitations and require frequent readjustment and repair-fizzle out slowly.

So, usually there is time to save them. Early detection of trouble allows us to take steps to recapture the zeal and spice of days gone by before the damage becomes irreparable. But preventing a breakdown from ever occurring is our best defense against losing our loving relationship. However, it takes strength to work on a relationship and weakness to give up.

This booklet can help. Written for women, it highlights some common practices that can assure women that they are doing their part to keep the life and love in their relationship.

This booklet is not meant to be derogatory towards women or suggested that women stay in or try to repair physically or mentally abusive relationships.

Women’s Expectation of Love:

As a matter of conditioning that can be traced back to the cradle most women are devout romantics. After all, the oldest and dearest scenarios known to women are those of Cinderella and sleeping beauty. These stories, packaged by instantaneous love and happily-ever-after endings, are quite intriguing, especially since normally, all is well that ends well. But there is no normalcy in the too-perfect-to-be-real romances that these tales convey.

They saddle young ladies with a romantic identify that no real-life suitors can live up to. And ultimately they produce adult women who would like nothing better than to be a fairy tale damsel in distress, gallantly rescued by a fearless and fascinating prince charming.  They begin the misconception of love, and lead women to believe that love is simply a matter of being in the right place, at the right time when the man to come along to save the day.

Women should note that men do not apologize for their standards; instead they make sure they really count. Women should look for a man who is interested in them and who will make a contribution to their life.

Men’s Expectation of Love

Men want to be mesmerized, adored, turned-on and respected. This is the simplest requirement of men’s expectation of love from a woman.

Men expect women to create a checklist of what they want from a man and what qualities they have to match these requirements they want. However, most times, women fail to ask themselves if they could attain these requirements themselves, before demanding it from their mates.

Men expect the “what have you done for me lately and the no finance no romance” mentality, couple with the double standards approach when it comes to finance. Men’s money is usually “our” money and her money is “her” money. Women also tend to have a notion that most men do not know how to manage their money, yet most accountants in the world are men, so where did that mentality comes from?

Other aspects common to their relationships include these facts:

  • They set high standards for their mates that they cannot attain themselves
  • They are more likely to link romantically to men they feel are dashing and debonair.
  • They expect mementos such as roses, chocolates and cards on the appropriate corresponding holidays occasion or on no particular occasion.
  • They use love for material or personal gain.
  • They should update their checklist to fit the time; we all change with time,
  • They want to be loved, wooed and honored
  • Hate to be neglected, ignored or no longer the apple of the man’s eye
  • The intensity of their emotions is not been reciprocated
  • True connectedness, which should be the foundation for a loving relationship, gets lost in a kind of if-you-loved me-you-would-impress-me-courtship ritual.
  • Eventually the emptiness of such a relationship surfaces, but to avoid this charades:
  • Involve yourself in a relationship for the right reasons

Examine your rationale for being in a relationship; be sure you’re after inner person; not personal gain.

Illusion of Love

“Love is mystical togetherness. It is a whimsical playfulness that invigorates you. Love is comfort. When you’re in love you experience a romantic clam and a tenderness that makes you lightheaded. Love is also tortures that you tolerate because each time you’re around the person you’re in love with, you learn something refreshing sweet or something funny, that makes you smile and keeps you happy.” A Woman in Love

The beauty of a woman

The beauty of a woman is not the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, however, true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows. By a Woman

A woman’s expression of an ideal male

The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It is in the width of his arms that encircle me.

The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It is in the gentle words he whispers.

The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good of a buddy he is to his children.

The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It is in how tender he touches.

The strength of a man isn’t the hair on his chest or balls. It is in his heart that lies within his chest that beats.

The strength of a man is not how many women he can love at once. It’s love and honesty that he can bring and be true to one woman like me.

“Love brings out the best in a person; positivity, acceptance, creativity and joy. Love also makes reckless fools out of responsible people. When you’re in love, you learn, you give, you share and you grow, while simultaneously experiencing headaches, annoyances and grief. A man in love stops functioning as an individual, the woman he loves becomes an extension of him. He is over come by an unshakeable twoness and there is no protection. Love is been aware and responding to the need of the other.

A Man in Love

Love Illusions

Most of us who hear the words true love quickly conjure up our stored away, but always handy, image of our union to our made-for-us mate. Almost always we envision an intriguing oasis of predestined passion somewhere out there just waiting for us to find it. This illusion of love is very common.

You can test your susceptibility to this love trap by asking yourself if when you meet a new man you expect a sign-fireworks, sparks, electricity-to let you know this is the one. If you test positive to this illusion, get used to being disappointed. If you’ve managed to avoid this trap, count your blessings. But you’re not out of the woods yet. You may have fallen victim to the equally renowned and just as romantically fatal love-at-first-sight trap.

For most of us feeling good about a relationship is not good enough. Before we’re willing to proclaim we’re in love, we need the additional evidence of having been struck by lightening or dumbfounded by magic the first time we saw a potential mate.

Neither lightning nor magic has anything to do with loving relationships. It’s hard work, compromise and commitment that makes or break loving relationships. And for your efforts, you’re rewarded with real love and real intimacy, not illusions.

Building a Foundation for Love

Most of us don’t realize that there are some general conditions of love. For instance, we’re not willing to be equal, honest and giving partners in a relationship, love has no basis. One or both of you are sure to be unhappy and resentful and end the relationship. No relationship can survive without a basics foundation.

Other elements vital to a loving relationship’s foundation include:

Be yourself

  • Don’t create a false image of yourself
  • Leave the role-playing to the actresses
  • Living a lie is tiring, deceptive and reeks havoc on a loving relationship
  • Love who you are and express the real you to have him and to the world

Outgrow the princess Syndrome

Don’t express special treatment, demand equal treatment

Don’t choose to be sheltered from the realities of life or the relationship of life or the relationship

Having a liberated consciousness; don’t promote the stereotype of a woman who needs a man to take care of her, its not fair to him or to yourself

Maintain a reasonable degree of separateness; don’t become overly dependent on him; don’t’ try to merge your identities

Don’t compare your relationship to him

A loving relationship cannot take its cue from your possible distorted view of your girlfriend’s relationship, (remember the grass always looks greener on the other side), or from the continuing saga of soap opera romances; it has to be based on the two of you and your individual personalities

Love him for who he is; don’t try to change him into someone he’s not Don’t be a slave to idealism or romanticism; stay focused on your loving relationship as it stands and as it evolves.

Always keep who he is and what he stands for in mind and judge him accordingly.

Making Love Work

Love is an atmosphere, a state of mind. The little things you do to contribute to his tranquility can mean a lot to the growth, depth and survival of the relationship.

Bring out the best in him

Really get to know him; constantly talk to him to find out what he really likes; what he’s really thinking; what changes he’s going through;

  • Be open minded and willing to give his ideas a try
  • Be willing to compromise on anything
  • Talk to him about the things on your mind
  • Don’t be a dictator; be a companion
  • Be a true friend; provide comfort, care and sensitivity

Keep your loving relationship in prospective even in the mist of kids, career, or household responsibilities; no relationship is self-sufficient; it has to be nurtured and built upon.

Forget the myth that men want to be mothered, most men would rather be thought of as heroes, not helpless.

Add flavor to your relationship, be creative, do something new to make him look forward to the next time the two of you are together

Explore and express your fantasies together, it will create something new for both of you and make it fun:

  • Don’t nag, be accommodating and understanding
  • Give space but don’t neglect
  • Never criticize unless it’s constructive
  • Learn some of the thing he enjoys doing when relaxing, and share in his relaxation
  • Respect him, trust him and keep the lines of communication between the two of you open
  • Be open about the problems in the relationship
  • Do not openly criticize his family or friends
  • Praise and appreciate him
  • Have patience and flexibility
  • Surrender possessiveness and jealousy
  • Treat him the way you want to be treated
  • Always establish the fact that you’re glad to see him by greeting him with affection not complaints
  • Don’t always take his mood changes personally
  • Don’t take him for granted
  • Don’t constantly complain
  • Don’t turn the relationship into a competition
  • Don’t always point an accusing finger at him when problems arise; accept equal responsibility for the problems in the relationship
  • Demonstrate affection often, with hugs, kisses and attentiveness
  • Don’t tell all your stories to your friends, keep some personal things to your self or an expert on relationships that can help if need be

Finally, invest in your relationship, read books, watch videos and other materials that will help you increase your knowledge on how to build strong and lasting relationship with your partner, get him involved too

Let Love Grow

If all of a sudden you are expected to do things that were not an issue at the start   of the relationship, your relationship has reached a new plateau; this is nothing to be upset about; it does not mean that he is no longer pleased with you; this is natural development in a long-term relationship; it proves that the two of you have become comfortable enough with each other to ask for the specifics that makes you happy.

Nothing stays the same. Day to day occurrence and experience affect each of us differently and will undoubtedly affect the change in your loving relationship. Change is nourishment for a loving relationship and should be welcomed

Don’t allow the relationship to become trapped in a routine agenda or cut off from the rest of the world; get out; do things; expose the relationship to new people, new places, new challenges and new ideas

Allow him to share your hopes and dreams and watch the bond between the two of you grow stronger and lasting

Love Realities

It’s quite obvious that maintaining a positive and long loving, supportive relationship with a partner is not an easy and ever demanding task. A true

Loving relationship is how the couple considers it to be. Just as the old saying, “you sleep on your bed as you lay it” Plan to lay your bed well, so that you can have a loving, funning, supporting and lasting relation.

Any relationship requires a little bit of patience, a little bit of creativity and a whole lot of open sessions of communication.

Communication is the building block of every relationship. Infact, this is the key to any relationship and in most cases, it is giving little or no attention when it comes to relationships.

From the study I conducted over a three-year period among divorced couples, the number one problem was communication and not what most people think-finance. So you can see that truly, communication is the building block of all relationship. Pay more attention to the simple 7 letters called “talking”.

There is no Perfect Relationship

Most of us tend to skim over our partner’s good traits, concentrate on the bad ones and then become disenchanted with the whole relationship; be fair in assessing your mate and if his acceptance characteristics outweigh his faults, you’ve more than likely struck gold.

Have realistic expectations from the relationship

  • Work on your relationship and make it better and better everyday
  • Accept nothing less than mutual honesty, trust, respect, and
  • Consideration of each other’s well being
  • Be committed to make your partner happy and demand the same
  • Commitment from him
  • Keep the spontaneity in your relationship alive
  • Demand what you can match from your mate

Judge the severity of the problems in your Loving relationship wisely and realistically

Arguments

A Loving relationship without disagreement is not healthy. These awkward moments of debate expose otherwise unexpressed thought and feelings. This is an opportunity to discover exactly what’s on his mind. Listen and you will learn. Be careful that you don’t extend unnecessary arguments.

After an argument, always examine and understand clearly in what ways you invited or contributed to the argument and in what areas you can effectively diffuse any other future similar occurrence

Know when to let go and compromise. Always think twice and about forcing an issue that will affect the both of you and should be settled calmly through mutually agreeable terms.

Selfish Demands

When both mates refrain from making selfish demands and let love have its full expression in their relationship, greater happiness results. There has to be an overwhelming desire to the parts of both partners to make needed changes, to do things the better way. We all have the good and bad in all of us, and he or she that is showing insight in a matter will find good and happiness in their relationship.

Giving In

Many of us believe that giving in an argument is a sign of weakness. Contrarily if you force an issue you lose more ground than you gain. Patience and cool headedness is the key to controlling a sticky situation

and finding a solution to a problem.

Note on Sex

Sex is basic human drive but it shouldn’t be a primary component of your loving relationship; if it is, your relationship probably is based more on ego gratification than on a consummation of love

  • Good sex doesn’t guarantee a good relationship; never has and never will.
  • Do not use sex as a bargaining chip or a weapon
  • The art of lovemaking is just that, an art
  • So do not ego trip about how good you are sexually, it is a matter of opinion.

    "Your Diversity Expert"

Written, edited and publish by:

FDG (Fuller Delson Group)

Atlanta, Georgia

0
Posted in Relationship Matters |

Lets Talk Race Relations

Sunday, December 19th, 2010

“The arrival of the African within the shores of the United States first is a triumph of personal, family and friends” initiatives.

Unknown to the African, it is the beginning of an endless journey. A journey moot with various complex questions of self, family, education, race, gender, Africa and national identity.

“Intriguing collections of personal experiences of individual Africans all across America, from the east coast to the west coast, and from south to the north, letting it all out.  Telling the stories of their journey in the greatest country of all countries in the world today, America.

"Your Diversity Expert"

Hardships, some triumphs, few jubilations and lots of disappointments for many. A point of no return for some, however, the hard struggle continues, many will barely make it, some will die with their songs still in them and the rest will live in the state of hopelessness and despair, a waste of human resources in the greatest country in the world as we know it today.

Our contributions have been hampered by our skin color. Some see our few glories and they refused to understand the story behind it all.

0
Posted in Race Talk |